3 Fears When Moving in With a Significant Other: When to NOT make the move
Making the decision to move in with your significant other can be a scary decision, but it probably shouldn’t be. In fact if you’re having certain fears you should probably re-think your motives. In fact, avoiding this move might just save your relationship.
This post assumes you’re unmarried–because you really should have already addressed these issues before making that move.
Fear 1: Money
Let’s face it, the number one cause of divorce is money. The circumstances are stressful in a co-habitation situation as well. Carrying a financial burden with a significant other requires incredible trust, commitment, and–sometimes–understanding. Chances are your incomes aren’t exactly equal. Tough months can lead to added stress or resentment if you or your beau have a ramen noodles month.
Bottom line: If you’re not completely sure you or your boy/girlfriend are financial ready for this commitment, be patient until you are.
Fear 2: Social Life
Expectations about your social life changes might go unsaid if you fail to have the conversation. Together time is totally awesome. Making breakfast or having someone to chat with in the middle of the night… But 110% together time will kill your individuality and might get a little boring. You fell for the guy/girl for a reason.
Bottom line: Communicate your expectations and change your plans if they don’t align. Live with your friends instead. It’ll make sleepovers way more exciting.
Fear 3: Home Upkeep
If your beau’s sink is stacked deep in dishes, don’t expect him to go all Peter Palmolive just to make you happy. Or the seat down. Or the TV dusted. Or become Emril the chef. Take a look at reality: Habits are only amplified in greater quantities. If it grossed you out before, think of what it’ll be like when they’re the only dishes you have to eat off of after a long day at work.
Bottom line: Bad habits only become amplified when you’re living together. Know what you can handle before you sign the lease. Talk about the chores you hate and compromise ahead of time.