Do You Live in a “Mean Girl” World?
Remember the movie “Mean Girls”? It came out only a few years ago but is referenced all the time. It simply shed some light on the way some girls really behave. In a nutshell, it is a group of women who act like friends when they really all hate each other. Instead of being happy for another girl’s success, they do anything in their power to bring them down- no matter how sneaky it is.
In fifth grade, I tried to act like a “mean popular girl”. It lasted about a month until our teacher put us all in the hall and made us tell her how we had treated one girl. Talk about mortifying, I could not forget that moment. True power is being able to be cruel to someone and NOT taking advantage of it.
Let’s be honest. Living with others is rough. Not to completely gender stereotype, but girls are downright catty.
I spent a year living with four other girls (plus some of their significant others and various pets). While overall things went smoothly, there was some bickering and mini-feuds that made life a little tough. What I’ve realized is that the “faults” often seen in other people bother us because it reflects what we do not like about ourselves.
Why is it that some people are nice to your face and then turn around and are mean behind your back? Most have heard from their mothers, “It’s just because she is jealous”. If mom references aren’t doing it for you, a great T-shirt slogan comes to mind: “Hating me won’t make you less ugly”.
Ultimately, the only person you can control is yourself. Check your actions. Is it really everyone else who has the problem, or have you been misbehaving? Are you the mean girl?